Tuesday, October 26, 2010

"Fatties"

I was just out in blogger world, when I came across a letter a blogger I follow had written to the Chief Editor of MarieClaire. I read her letter and could tell she was all sorts of fired up. So, I clicked on this link, http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-television, and read the blog. It is VERY rare I get as upset as I am right now, based on someones view and reading.

Anyway...Here is my letter. I hope there comes a point where this woman decides she has done enough damage and resigns or better yet the magazine releases her from her position.

Dear Maura,
 
I am writing in response to your article, "Should "Fatties" Get A Room? Even on TV?"
 
First let me start by saying I am a mother, a wife, a teacher, and a dear friend to many. I am educated and have completed my Masters Degree of Science in School Counseling. I am a lover, a fighter, extremely opinionated yet always willing to listen. I have had the opportunity to experience many great things and I am grateful for all I have. Having said that, I am also plus sized. I have been for as long as I can remember.
 
I read a letter from a blogger who was replying to your blog on "Fatties." After reading her letter, I thought to myself..."There is no way it could be as insensitive as it sounds. MarieClaire is a HUGE publication, and they would not target and offend a population of people based on their weight." I decided to click on her link, to your article, and read it myself. I have never been so appalled in a writing as I am tonight with your blog post.
 
With where the world is today on bullying and suicides, how dare you post a blog such as that. How dare you put your disgust for a person based on their weight, on such a highly read magazine. It is so sad to me, that you would write this and have such a negative impact on so many, when you could have the opportunity to embrace your position and say something positive. Instead, you have made people who are overweight continue to feel like they are less of a person due to the number on a scale. You have made people who are overweight feel like they don't deserve to be loved. They shouldn't dare show affection in public because, "I think I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other ... because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything."
 
How dare you...in reading this, how dare you belittle so many. How dare you feel like you are better then those who have weight issues because you don't. How dare you think you are worth more and should have the right to do other things because you are skinny! How dare you! Then to have the audacity to make the comment, "Yes, anorexia is sick, but at least some slim models are simply naturally skinny."
 
Have you ever heard of health conditions that are highly related to people who are obese. If not, maybe you should educate yourself a little before publishing something such as this. Have you heard of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome? It is where women suffer from weight, abnormal hair growth, and many aren't able to have children due to the cysts and chemical imbalances this disease gives. But again, in your eyes, maybe someone who is overweight shouldn't get to be a parent...right?
 
Have you ever heard of Thyroid disease? This also can contribute to people being overweight and many doctors aren't able to detect the problem for years and years.
 
I suffer from both these diseases. I have HUGE body issues and ALWAYS have. I have always thought I wasn't worth as much as my family and friends because I have always been the heaviest. I have always wondered what it would be like to walk into a department store and not wonder where the plus size section is. I have walked past hundreds of people in my life and thought, "I bet they don't see anything but a fat girl walk by." I have always felt less of a person because of my weight and it is people like YOU that make people like ME feel like they aren't worth a damn.
 
I am so angry and so appalled by your writing. Your apology will never be enough for the amount of people you have hurt. I hope there comes a time where you are able to look at what is truly hurting people and instead of bullying the population being targeted, you will step up take the higher road and be an advocate for those suffering.
 
Lindsey Adams
lindsey_d_adams@Hotmail.com

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Halloween Party for the Little One's

On the 23rd Nathan and Stacy hosted the kids Halloween party. It was so fun. There were many kids, lots of costumes, and tons of laughs.





There were two pinatas, one for the young the other for the older kids. They had so much fun hitting them, and they were super tough pinatas. They were $13 well spent! Way to much fun!






The kids had fun and it was great to be with the adult friends, as always. We are looking forward to the time together as the holidays begin!




HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Thriller

On the 17th of this month, my mom and I went to "Thriller" at Kingsbury hall. I have been wanting to go for several years now, but have never either remembered or had the money to go.

This year I had a friend post on facebook, that she found the tickets online, through one of the daily deals, for $17. So, I bought a couple and went with my mom.


I had high expectations and I must say...IT. WAS. SO. GOOD!!! I love it....every piece of it. It was so fun and I so enjoyed the time with my mom. The dancing was incredible and so much fun to watch. I am so glad I finally had the opportunity to go. And it was the perfect mommy daughter date. Thanks for going Nee-Ners!

Best Part Of Waking Up....

The other morning Carter got in bed with us when he awakened. He said to me, "Mom, nap fun!"

I thought for a minute what he was trying to tell me, and the only thing I could think of was he was dreaming. So, I asked him, "Oh yeah? What did you do that was fun?" He replied with, "played with Coli, S, and Lynnie."


With this response, I figure out he is telling me about a dream. I said, "Did you have a dream about Coli, S, and Lynnie?" Carter, "Yeah!!! Nap fun!" I was so excited he was telling me about his dreams.

The next morning, he came in and said, "Mom, nap fun! Dream!" I asked him what it was about and he said, "Coli and Lynnie." I asked if he was playing with them again and he said, "yeah, fun!" That day after nap, he told me, "Nap fun! Play with Coly and toys."

Anyway, one day last week, I had my camera near me, and when Carter came in my room after his night, I snapped a few pictures. And here is the best part of my waking up...the smile and loves with my little man!
(forgive the crunchy nose...he had a sinus infection...)

Painting Pumpkins

Over fall break I had four days off. It was kind of a rough weekend due to some family events that have been occurring. So after a day of cleaning, I decided I needed some R&R.

Carter and I went to JoAnn's and bought some paint brushes and paints, then made a trip to Smith's for some pumpkins and a couple redbox videos. When we got home Carter went down for a nap, and I turned on a movie and started painting.

By the time Carter woke up, I had one done and he began painting with me. He LOVED it! He loved the water, the paint, the pumpkin, the water, the brushes, the relaxing, and did I mention the water. It was so fun!


A couple days later, during another nap, I finished my other two pumpkins and my other redbox and called it good. It was very relaxing and exactly the kind of unwind I was searching for.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Mommy Pillow

Today was a day. It was a day of very little of anything but cleaning.

I hired a helper and she came over and helped me get my house under control and deeply cleaned. I wanted my house to smell of Lysol, Clorox, and Pledge by the time my day was done. I am proud to say that is exactly what it smells like as I sit here tonight.

However, this post is NOT about Lysol, Clorox, and Pledge. This is about my Little Man. With him being two, we have our days. We have days that seem a lot more rough then others. Days when I am pretty sure I am counting 1...2...3...! More than anyone else on the planet. Days when time out is not doing the job, and I have no idea what to do. Days where I am on the verge of crying along with him because we have both hit the ultimate frustration point.

That was not today. Today was a good day. Carter was happy! He was full of energy and so much fun. He didn't spend ANY time in time out. Counting 1...2...3...! only happened a small handful. Laughter and giggles were in the air and his company was completly delightful.

Tonight I am sitting on the couch and he crawls up next to me, and lays his head on my arm. He then says, "Mommy pillow~" And at that moment, MY. HEART. MELTED!

I LOVE MY LITTLE MAN, and I so love moments such as these where I am reminded just how magical being a mom really is. I am often completely overwhelmed with all the responsibities on my plate and wonder how I will ever get things in a functioning routine. Tonight, I am not worried about anything but the time I have loving on my Peanut and getting to be Carter's mom!

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Fishing at Strawberry

Late Friday night I got a call from Nathan saying he was going fishing with his brothers on Saturday morning, and asked if we wanted to go. Unfortunately, Dustin worked Saturday morning, but Carter and I were all in.

So, Carter and I left our house at 4:45 AM and headed to Nathan's. Nobody was there yet, Nathan was still asleep, but a few phone callswere made and we pretty quickly were getting ready to go. After a short stop to get coffee and snacks we were headed East to Strawberry Reservoir.


We got there about 7:30 and it was a whopping 31 degrees and BEAUTIFUL
!


Once we got the boat in, we buckled down and headed across the lake. I am so grateful Carter and I had warm clothes and blankets. I don't think either one of us ever got really cold!




It was then time to start getting poles ready and we all started tossing out lines. Nathan was the first to catch a fish. It was a good size and put the rest of us in fairly good spirits. Dave quickly caught a fish after that, which was even bigger and we were even more anxious to catch fish.



As we were trolling, which was something I haven't done in SO long, my pole about jerked out of my hands. I hollered, "I GOT ONE!" and started reeling it in. But the fish was fighting, and I was so far out, I was getting worn out. Nathan tried to take my pole, but there was no way I was going to give it up. When I finally got my fish in, he was HUGE! It was so cool, all the boys were blown away. I took pictures with it, and then after much debate on whether we should keep it or not, due to size, we threw him back in the water because we didn't have a measurement. Quickly after, the boys found a measurer on the cooler, and we now know my fish would have been big enough I could have kept it! I think they knew all along, they just didn't want proof of my ginormeous fish around! ;-)


Dave caught a few more and Jason caught one by the end of the morning. As we were trolling we looked up and saw a beautiful Eagle perched in the tree.






We were home by 1:00 and got the boat clean and said goodbye. It was such a great fall activity, and I so loved the outing. Thanks again boys for counting me in!

Birthday Halloween Bash

On Saturday, October 2, we started off the Halloween season the right way. We had a birthday bash. From my birthday to October 1, in our group of friends, we have A WHOLE LOT of birthdays.







So Saturday night our crowd gathered and we brought in October with a bang. There was costumes, food, friends, and a whole lot of laughs. It was very relaxed and the kind of gathering that should happen more often.







This year I am Gretchen and Dustin is the Tooth Fairy. We had a lot of fun in our costumes, this being the first year we actually have thought about what we wanted to dress up as and have a good time in.






IT WAS SO FUN!