A friend of mine went through and did highlights of his past year. I really loved reading his, and I decided that I should do this as well. So, here it is.
*February 3, 2009- Dustin and I were able to finalize our adoption with Carter and he officially became ours! Best day of the entire year!
*I started teaching at Hillcrest Jr. High this fall. I am the case manager for all severe students and for the most part I have really enjoyed it.
*I saw Boys II Men in concert and it truly was so good! I remembered how much I love their music.
*We celebrated Carter's 1st birthday July 26, and it was so fun. We had over 60 people there, a huge blow up water slide, and tons of giggles.
*After Carter's birthday party, the adults decided to have their own party, and I ended up falling off the huge blow up water slide...a little to much tequila.
*On our way to California we saw Jay Leno in Vegas, and he is very spastic, much more then on TV.
*Dustin and I went on a cruise with our very best of friends, there were 19 of us, to the Mexican Riviera and had one of the best vacations I can remember. We had so much fun and were able to truly get away and relax.
*On August 10, I had a cyst removed from my ovary. It was the size of a grapefruit and had a blood vessel running through it that was bigger than my fallopian tube so they had to take my tube as well. I was in a meeting at work the next day, and went to Flaming Gorge two days later.
*In April Carter had tubes put in his ears and started crawling the same day. We have only had one ear infection since
*In April I started my first round of the HCG diet and by November 1st I had lost 65 lbs.
*In May Nathan, Dustin, Carter and I went to Boise, ID to visit Haley for Memorial Day weekend. We were there to just hang in Boise. But on Sunday we decided to head into Oregon to eat breakfast, it was only about a 45 minute drive, but as we were there decided to go further in to Oregon. By the middle of the day we were headed to Portland, OR for the night. We were able to cross into Washington state, see Multnomah Falls, Mt. Hood, and Portland. It was the most fun, random trip we have ever had. We drove back Monday from Portland to Salt Lake. 1700 miles, 1300 pictures, 4 friends, 2 states, and countless memories made.
*Jocelyn and Chris were married in March and then had the big wedding in June.
*Joc and I took Carter and Colin to story time every week during the story time, and the lady reader was a complete BI!!!
*We spent a weekend with our closest friends camping up at Ponderosa. It was Carter's first trip and it ended up raining the entire weekend. We luckily had my mom and Garry's trailer to keep kids warm in. It was cold but we had a really good time.
*In March a friend gave us tickets to the Jazz game. We saw the Utah Jazz vs Phoenix Suns. It was so fun and Carter loved every minute of the game.
*My brother-in-law was in Afghanistan from June-December, and returned home safely December 17 to his bride.
*On November 16, I found out I was pregnant!!!
*On December 23, we had our first ultrasound. They did not see a baby so we wait to see if my dates are off or if the baby stopped forming. We will know more the beginning of the New Year.
*In December Dustin found his half-brother and has been able to talk with him a few times.
As we say goodbye to a pretty great year, we are looking forward to all 2010 has to offer and bring us. We want to thank each one of you who have played such an important role in our life. We have felt very blessed this year and feel like we are in a good place in our lives. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
My Top 10 in Ten
With 2009 coming to a quick end, I thought it would be neat to look back at the last 10 years of my life, and write down the top ten things I have done in ten years. So, here it is:
2000: Graduated from Woods Cross High and started college at USU
2001: Had the best year of my college life with friends and GPA showed it...
2002: Went to Schwenksville, PA to be a camp counselor for the summer.
2003: Started dating Dustin and was began special education program.
2004: Graduated from USU in Special Education and received my first teaching position.
2005: Married Dustin on August 6 and began my grad program in October.
2006: Went to Jamaica with family for a week in June.
2007: Went to Puerto Vallarta with Dustin, Joc, and Chris for a week.
2008: Completed my Master of Science in School Counseling & Carter was born on July 26.
2009: Went on a cruise with friends and found out I was pregnant a week later.
Well there it is. Top ten events in my life for the past ten years. I am sure there is more, but that is what really sticks out in my mind. Here's to saying goodbye to 2009 and hello to a new decade, 2010.
2000: Graduated from Woods Cross High and started college at USU
2001: Had the best year of my college life with friends and GPA showed it...
2002: Went to Schwenksville, PA to be a camp counselor for the summer.
2003: Started dating Dustin and was began special education program.
2004: Graduated from USU in Special Education and received my first teaching position.
2005: Married Dustin on August 6 and began my grad program in October.
2006: Went to Jamaica with family for a week in June.
2007: Went to Puerto Vallarta with Dustin, Joc, and Chris for a week.
2008: Completed my Master of Science in School Counseling & Carter was born on July 26.
2009: Went on a cruise with friends and found out I was pregnant a week later.
Well there it is. Top ten events in my life for the past ten years. I am sure there is more, but that is what really sticks out in my mind. Here's to saying goodbye to 2009 and hello to a new decade, 2010.
Christmas 2009
Our Christmas was so much fun! We were able to spend some serious time with our families and loved ones and feel so blessed for all that we were able to do.
We spent Christmas Eve at Dustin's sisters with his family. We just ate appetizer foods and spent a few hours chilling with the family. Carter experienced going ass over tea kettle down the stairs, which scared the hell out of me but he was just fine.
Once we were done there the three of us came home and started getting Peanut ready for Christmas. When I was little we had the tradition of opening one present Christmas Eve and it was ALWAYS new jammies. So, I have decided to continue the tradition with my family and we all sat down by the fire and opened our new pajamas. Dustin and I got Peanut ready for bed, read a Christmas story, and then put him down.
We were able to get Santa setup and I think Dustin had more fun playing with the toys then anybody. We got the rest of the house straightened and Dustin cut some of the fruit for the morning.
Christmas morning Dustin and I made some breakfast items. He made quiches and I made some muffins. We then waited for our parents to show. My mom, Garry, and dad showed up about 9:30 and we were able to start Christmas with Peanut. We removed the sheet that was covering Santa's gifts and he was off. However, the first thing he went to was the drum-set and that consumed all of his attention.
The rest of his gifts took quite awhile to open. In fact we didn't finish until Christmas evening. But he did receive a piano, a new comforter for a big boy bed, gabba gabba dancing monster, drum-set, jammies, clothes, etc. It was so fun.
We then went to my moms where we ate passoli and opened our presents. At moms we got a portable dvd player, UP, a safe, and many more fun gifts.
Christmas night my family headed to Logan. We were able to visit my Aunt and her darling family for a few hours. It was so nice to catch up and see my cousins. We then headed to Dustin's parents and spent the night and rest of the weekend there. It was a perfect Christmas day!
We spent Christmas Eve at Dustin's sisters with his family. We just ate appetizer foods and spent a few hours chilling with the family. Carter experienced going ass over tea kettle down the stairs, which scared the hell out of me but he was just fine.
Once we were done there the three of us came home and started getting Peanut ready for Christmas. When I was little we had the tradition of opening one present Christmas Eve and it was ALWAYS new jammies. So, I have decided to continue the tradition with my family and we all sat down by the fire and opened our new pajamas. Dustin and I got Peanut ready for bed, read a Christmas story, and then put him down.
We were able to get Santa setup and I think Dustin had more fun playing with the toys then anybody. We got the rest of the house straightened and Dustin cut some of the fruit for the morning.
Christmas morning Dustin and I made some breakfast items. He made quiches and I made some muffins. We then waited for our parents to show. My mom, Garry, and dad showed up about 9:30 and we were able to start Christmas with Peanut. We removed the sheet that was covering Santa's gifts and he was off. However, the first thing he went to was the drum-set and that consumed all of his attention.
The rest of his gifts took quite awhile to open. In fact we didn't finish until Christmas evening. But he did receive a piano, a new comforter for a big boy bed, gabba gabba dancing monster, drum-set, jammies, clothes, etc. It was so fun.
We then went to my moms where we ate passoli and opened our presents. At moms we got a portable dvd player, UP, a safe, and many more fun gifts.
Christmas night my family headed to Logan. We were able to visit my Aunt and her darling family for a few hours. It was so nice to catch up and see my cousins. We then headed to Dustin's parents and spent the night and rest of the weekend there. It was a perfect Christmas day!
Weekend Getaway for Christmas
Coming from a divorced family, it is becoming more and more difficult to make sure we see everyone on Christmas day and be able to enjoy some good old family time together. So, last year my dad's side of the family decided to go down to Castledale to see my sister and have a Christmas weekend there. My sister has a beautiful home down there that fits all of us comfortably. We all had such a great time last year, we decided to do it again this year.
On December 18 we headed down to Castledale as soon as we were all off of work and got there a little after 7. We had Frito pie for dinner and then just kind of hung out for a little bit. Once we got the kiddoes down we began a mean game of hand and foot. I would love to say that Chad and I won, but unfortunately, the first game neither one of us got into our foots, and the second game Chad didn't again. Needless to say we took a serious beating.
Saturday we made breakfast and got all the Christmas presents ready. My nephew ended up finding the fish tank and thought it would be so fun to see what items would sin and float. By the time we realized he was being very quiet, we went into find the fish swimming with my glasses, my contact holder, pens, pencils, MP3 player, earplugs, a Santa figurine, and so much more. Once we got it all out it was pretty funny, and the fish survived.
The boys went for a drive and some recreational shooting. My brother-in-law dropped them off, and 45 minutes later he hadn't returned. So, after a quick phone call, he informs Shannon he has gotten his truck stuck and waiting for his dad to go pull him out. A little while later the boys come back but Merrial is still gone. It took a little more effort to pull the truck out of the reservoir, but got it done.
We then made a fabulous Christmas dinner and then opened presents. It was so fun to have all of us together and see the nieces and nephews together for presents. We received a snuggie, a drill, a gift card, and much more. It was so nice.
We then played another game of hand and foot, where Chad and I lost AGAIN! We called it a night earlier and then headed for bed. Sunday morning we got up, ate breakfast, cleaned up, and headed home.
It turned out to be such a great weekend. I am so glad so many of us were able to get together. Jocelyn and Chris missed it because they were still in California, and Shane and Hailey missed it due to having a brand new baby. But, hopefully next year all of us will be able to join again.
On December 18 we headed down to Castledale as soon as we were all off of work and got there a little after 7. We had Frito pie for dinner and then just kind of hung out for a little bit. Once we got the kiddoes down we began a mean game of hand and foot. I would love to say that Chad and I won, but unfortunately, the first game neither one of us got into our foots, and the second game Chad didn't again. Needless to say we took a serious beating.
Saturday we made breakfast and got all the Christmas presents ready. My nephew ended up finding the fish tank and thought it would be so fun to see what items would sin and float. By the time we realized he was being very quiet, we went into find the fish swimming with my glasses, my contact holder, pens, pencils, MP3 player, earplugs, a Santa figurine, and so much more. Once we got it all out it was pretty funny, and the fish survived.
The boys went for a drive and some recreational shooting. My brother-in-law dropped them off, and 45 minutes later he hadn't returned. So, after a quick phone call, he informs Shannon he has gotten his truck stuck and waiting for his dad to go pull him out. A little while later the boys come back but Merrial is still gone. It took a little more effort to pull the truck out of the reservoir, but got it done.
We then made a fabulous Christmas dinner and then opened presents. It was so fun to have all of us together and see the nieces and nephews together for presents. We received a snuggie, a drill, a gift card, and much more. It was so nice.
We then played another game of hand and foot, where Chad and I lost AGAIN! We called it a night earlier and then headed for bed. Sunday morning we got up, ate breakfast, cleaned up, and headed home.
It turned out to be such a great weekend. I am so glad so many of us were able to get together. Jocelyn and Chris missed it because they were still in California, and Shane and Hailey missed it due to having a brand new baby. But, hopefully next year all of us will be able to join again.
What Christmas is All About
This year, we did a few things a little different for Christmas and I really loved it. On Dustin's side we decided instead of doing niece and nephew gifts we would adopt an was angel. It turned out to be such a great thing. I'm not going to lie, it was a little stressful but we really ended up feeling so good. It was so humbling for me to see what was on my kiddoes list.
Our angel was two years old and this is what his list consisted of. He asked for clothes, a coat, shoes, underwear, socks, and an elmo toy. It was so heartbreaking to us to see that his wants were just typical needs. We were fortunate enough to buy a little of everything. When we turned in our angel gifts there were so many little angels on the tree. It broke my heart and made me wish I was rich enough to do them all.
The other thing we did was created a Christmas party for children who are terminally ill. My sister-in-law is a CNA there and had told us how many of these kids wouldn't be receiving anything for Christmas, so we decided to do a little.
My father in law dressed up as Santa and delivered a small gift and stocking to every child. These little guys are going through so much and it breaks my heart to know so many of them spent Christmas alone.
As we did these two small projects it truly humbled me and made me realize just what Christmas is truly all about. By doing these two small things, I really did enjoy the holiday season even more!
Our angel was two years old and this is what his list consisted of. He asked for clothes, a coat, shoes, underwear, socks, and an elmo toy. It was so heartbreaking to us to see that his wants were just typical needs. We were fortunate enough to buy a little of everything. When we turned in our angel gifts there were so many little angels on the tree. It broke my heart and made me wish I was rich enough to do them all.
The other thing we did was created a Christmas party for children who are terminally ill. My sister-in-law is a CNA there and had told us how many of these kids wouldn't be receiving anything for Christmas, so we decided to do a little.
My father in law dressed up as Santa and delivered a small gift and stocking to every child. These little guys are going through so much and it breaks my heart to know so many of them spent Christmas alone.
As we did these two small projects it truly humbled me and made me realize just what Christmas is truly all about. By doing these two small things, I really did enjoy the holiday season even more!
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Well...Hmmmm!!!!
Yesterday was my first doctor appointment since I found out we were pregnant. I was so excited and couldn't wait to hear fetus's heartbeat and see the little body! Dustin went with me and we were ready!
My doctor came in and asked me all of the regular questions. We discussed my medications, previous surgeries, celebrated the fact I was finally pregnant, and discussed different delivery options due to my medical problems. My doctor has been with me for five years and know's me very well, so it was very nice to be celebrating this little miracle with her.
It was then time for the ultrasound!!! She comes in and starts to do the tummy ultrasound. She is searching and says here is your bladder, uterus, and this is your sac. Then she continues to stroll around. At that moment the whole atmosphere of the room changed. She asked me to lay my head flat, to relax my tummy muscles and then started pressing down a little harder. I said,"Lisa, is everything okay?" And she says "just hold on Linds."
A few more minutes passed and she tells me she is going to do a vaginal ultrasound. So, she preps that and then starts searching again. She is taking measurements and the look on her face is very serious. So, again, I say, "Lisa, what is wrong?" After another minute or two this is her answer.
-"Linds, you have a sac. So, there is no doubt you are pregnant. However, the problem I am having is that I can't see a fetus. So, this means one of two things. One you may only be six or seven weeks along. Your sac has no abnormalities, which is good, and if your dates are off then the sac would be correct. If it is the other one, then that means you got pregnant without a fetus forming."
So, I ask, "What does all that mean, are my symptoms of the pregnancy all in my head?" Lisa says, "No, either way you are definitely pregnant, we just don't know if when the egg and spern fertilized an embryo didn't form, just tissue, or if it is just to little and we can't see it."
I say, "Okay, what does all this mean?" She comes back with this, in the most loving voice. "Linds, it means we have to wait. I am going to do some blood work and see if your levels are where they are supposed to be. Unfortunately, we will not have the results until after Christmas. Once we have those, we will wait 2-4 more weeks and then schedule another ultrasound. From there, if there is a fetus, we continue going with a regular pregnancy. If there is still no fetus we will either cause a miscarriage or you will have a DNC."
As I sat there taking all this in, trying to be brave and not tear up, my sweet husband says, "You have to tell Lindsey what the odds are here! I know her and she will sit and obsess about this unless she knows!" And my doctor knowing this as well, simply says, "I am so sorry, I have no idea. All we can do is wait and find out."
She steps out of the room for me to dress and the tears start to come. Dustin tries to give me loves but I know that I will completely fall apart if he does. So, I get dressed and wait for my doctor to come back in. She came back in with a lab order and says, "I will call you as soon as I know what the blood work says." I wish her a Merry Christmas, and go next door to the lab.
They took 10 viles of blood yesterday, that is the most I have ever had taken at one time. The rest of my day was kind of shot to hell. I am trying so hard to be brave, but it is so hard. I am praying for the best, I just don't know how realistic it is. I have know I am pregnant for 5 1/2 weeks and just don't know if the 6-7 week pregnancy is realistic.
So, bottom line...I am at hurray up and wait. I hate that part, but just pray fetus shows up next time!
My doctor came in and asked me all of the regular questions. We discussed my medications, previous surgeries, celebrated the fact I was finally pregnant, and discussed different delivery options due to my medical problems. My doctor has been with me for five years and know's me very well, so it was very nice to be celebrating this little miracle with her.
It was then time for the ultrasound!!! She comes in and starts to do the tummy ultrasound. She is searching and says here is your bladder, uterus, and this is your sac. Then she continues to stroll around. At that moment the whole atmosphere of the room changed. She asked me to lay my head flat, to relax my tummy muscles and then started pressing down a little harder. I said,"Lisa, is everything okay?" And she says "just hold on Linds."
A few more minutes passed and she tells me she is going to do a vaginal ultrasound. So, she preps that and then starts searching again. She is taking measurements and the look on her face is very serious. So, again, I say, "Lisa, what is wrong?" After another minute or two this is her answer.
-"Linds, you have a sac. So, there is no doubt you are pregnant. However, the problem I am having is that I can't see a fetus. So, this means one of two things. One you may only be six or seven weeks along. Your sac has no abnormalities, which is good, and if your dates are off then the sac would be correct. If it is the other one, then that means you got pregnant without a fetus forming."
So, I ask, "What does all that mean, are my symptoms of the pregnancy all in my head?" Lisa says, "No, either way you are definitely pregnant, we just don't know if when the egg and spern fertilized an embryo didn't form, just tissue, or if it is just to little and we can't see it."
I say, "Okay, what does all this mean?" She comes back with this, in the most loving voice. "Linds, it means we have to wait. I am going to do some blood work and see if your levels are where they are supposed to be. Unfortunately, we will not have the results until after Christmas. Once we have those, we will wait 2-4 more weeks and then schedule another ultrasound. From there, if there is a fetus, we continue going with a regular pregnancy. If there is still no fetus we will either cause a miscarriage or you will have a DNC."
As I sat there taking all this in, trying to be brave and not tear up, my sweet husband says, "You have to tell Lindsey what the odds are here! I know her and she will sit and obsess about this unless she knows!" And my doctor knowing this as well, simply says, "I am so sorry, I have no idea. All we can do is wait and find out."
She steps out of the room for me to dress and the tears start to come. Dustin tries to give me loves but I know that I will completely fall apart if he does. So, I get dressed and wait for my doctor to come back in. She came back in with a lab order and says, "I will call you as soon as I know what the blood work says." I wish her a Merry Christmas, and go next door to the lab.
They took 10 viles of blood yesterday, that is the most I have ever had taken at one time. The rest of my day was kind of shot to hell. I am trying so hard to be brave, but it is so hard. I am praying for the best, I just don't know how realistic it is. I have know I am pregnant for 5 1/2 weeks and just don't know if the 6-7 week pregnancy is realistic.
So, bottom line...I am at hurray up and wait. I hate that part, but just pray fetus shows up next time!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Tis the Season
I really do love this time of year. I find so much joy in all that Christmas means to me and my family and am so grateful for everything. This year I have truly enjoyed the Christmas shopping, ESPECIALLY BLACK FRIDAY, the wrapping of presents, sending out Christmas cards, etc.
Dustin and I rarely have done Christmas for one another. We usually have gotten something earlier in the year and decide that is our Christmas present to one another. This year we bought a laptop and a camera for our cruise. So, it is nice to not have that stress on top of it.
We also decided to do an angel this year. I am not going to lie, it was a little more stressful then I thought it would be, but I truly feel like we gave back a little this year. We had a 2 year old boy and we were able to get him a coat, pajamas, clothes, socks, underwear, shoes, and a toy. I really have been so glad that our family did this and wish we had more money to do more. When we turned in our angel presents, there were still probably 50 angels who had not been picked. It breaks my heart to think there are munchkins out there who won't get Christmas this year.
I am very excited for Santa to come this year and how much fun I think Carter will have with Santa's toys. I can't believe Christmas is just around the corner. I look forward the season and having some time with family and friends.
Last weekend I went to Dustin and Nathan's family parties. Then this weekend we are headed to my sisters for a family gathering there. We will then have a couple days of work, then I am done for 12 days! HOORAY!
Anyway, Merry Christams and I hope everyone is taking the time to enjoy the holiday season and all that it represents.
Dustin and I rarely have done Christmas for one another. We usually have gotten something earlier in the year and decide that is our Christmas present to one another. This year we bought a laptop and a camera for our cruise. So, it is nice to not have that stress on top of it.
We also decided to do an angel this year. I am not going to lie, it was a little more stressful then I thought it would be, but I truly feel like we gave back a little this year. We had a 2 year old boy and we were able to get him a coat, pajamas, clothes, socks, underwear, shoes, and a toy. I really have been so glad that our family did this and wish we had more money to do more. When we turned in our angel presents, there were still probably 50 angels who had not been picked. It breaks my heart to think there are munchkins out there who won't get Christmas this year.
I am very excited for Santa to come this year and how much fun I think Carter will have with Santa's toys. I can't believe Christmas is just around the corner. I look forward the season and having some time with family and friends.
Last weekend I went to Dustin and Nathan's family parties. Then this weekend we are headed to my sisters for a family gathering there. We will then have a couple days of work, then I am done for 12 days! HOORAY!
Anyway, Merry Christams and I hope everyone is taking the time to enjoy the holiday season and all that it represents.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
So Far...Not to Bad!
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant, two days away from 9, and so far, I have been very lucky. I am feeling pretty good and able to function for the most part normally!
I am not suffering from tons of morning sickness, which is very nice. I was worried about it, but I have now had a couple rough days and think that everything is just fine. However, the one problem I am having is with my back.
I have had 19 inches of medal rods in my back since I was 15 and for the most part, it truly hasn't given me much grief. I always have spasms during the winter but nothing some muscle relaxers won't take care of...UNTIL YOU ARE PREGNANT!
I hadn't really thought much about having my rods and being pregnant being a problem. However, this last weekend due to the weather, being pregnant, and serious spasms, I am starting to worry a little about how my body will handle the pregnancy.
I believe right now I am dealing with my siatic(?) nerve because I have pain from my back to my toes, but I am not really sure. I have so many questions to talk with my doctor about, that I feel like 2 more weeks is forever away! I just want to know what my options are and if having this baby vaginal is even an option or should we just opt straight for a c-section?
So many questions and only time will tell. I am looking forward to the doctors. My first appointment is on the 23rd of this month, and I am praying I get to have an ultrasound and hear my fetus's heartbeat. I am still in such shock that we are pregnant and am ever so grateful everyday that I am experiencing this part of motherhood.
Anyway, hopefully Week 9 is just as good!
I am not suffering from tons of morning sickness, which is very nice. I was worried about it, but I have now had a couple rough days and think that everything is just fine. However, the one problem I am having is with my back.
I have had 19 inches of medal rods in my back since I was 15 and for the most part, it truly hasn't given me much grief. I always have spasms during the winter but nothing some muscle relaxers won't take care of...UNTIL YOU ARE PREGNANT!
I hadn't really thought much about having my rods and being pregnant being a problem. However, this last weekend due to the weather, being pregnant, and serious spasms, I am starting to worry a little about how my body will handle the pregnancy.
I believe right now I am dealing with my siatic(?) nerve because I have pain from my back to my toes, but I am not really sure. I have so many questions to talk with my doctor about, that I feel like 2 more weeks is forever away! I just want to know what my options are and if having this baby vaginal is even an option or should we just opt straight for a c-section?
So many questions and only time will tell. I am looking forward to the doctors. My first appointment is on the 23rd of this month, and I am praying I get to have an ultrasound and hear my fetus's heartbeat. I am still in such shock that we are pregnant and am ever so grateful everyday that I am experiencing this part of motherhood.
Anyway, hopefully Week 9 is just as good!
My 16 Month NOTTLE!!!
Carter is currently 16 months old, and let me tell you, he is a handful! Don't get me wrong, I love my child dearly, but we are going through a phase and he has a streak of naughty.
Anyway, we are constantly telling him, "Don't hit..., don't throw..., don't scream..., don't, don't, don't." We are dealing with time out, which is going better than I thought it would at this age but good grief, it can be exhausting.
So, this is a shout out to all you mothers...especially my special ed friends, looking for behavior modification on a 16 month old little boy. I have ignored, I have redirected, I have put him in time out, I have given positive praise, and the list keeps going. So, is there something you all have found to work, or is it just a phase, or is it just my child?
Anyway, we are constantly telling him, "Don't hit..., don't throw..., don't scream..., don't, don't, don't." We are dealing with time out, which is going better than I thought it would at this age but good grief, it can be exhausting.
So, this is a shout out to all you mothers...especially my special ed friends, looking for behavior modification on a 16 month old little boy. I have ignored, I have redirected, I have put him in time out, I have given positive praise, and the list keeps going. So, is there something you all have found to work, or is it just a phase, or is it just my child?
Friday, November 27, 2009
So....We're Pregnant!!!
Well, after close to two weeks of knowing, we have decided to post on facebook and let everyone know, I AM PREGNANT!
For all of you who know us, you know how much of a struggle we have had getting pregnant. I got off birth control over four years ago, and never even had a chance. I was not ovulating at all, and after fertility treatments, Dustin and I decided we were done with the disappointment of hoping to have a family, and went the adoption route.
Well 16 months after being blessed with our little man, we are now blessed with a pregnancy! The two of us are so excited and are so enjoying all this has to offer for our family. Dustin and I are in shock of all that has occurred, and I am so excited to be in this position.
I found out we were pregnant on November 16, and called Ally...she's my person, at 10:15 at night. We talked and I told her we were going to wait til Christmas to tell everyone. Well, I couldn't contain the excitement and we shared the incredible news with our families this past weekend. They all were so excited and so happy for our family.
So far I have felt pretty well. I am very tired, but I am feeling pretty good for the most part. Every now and then I have a wave of nausea, but no real complaints. I just want this pregnancy to be healthy and make it full term. I figure I can go through anything for 9 months, as long as our little person makes it into the world safely.
We are so grateful that our pregnancy didn't come until now. We wouldn't change a single event in our life for the world, and feel so blessed to be able to understand and adore the adoption world, and now have an amazing opportunity to experience having a biological child as well!
For all of you who know us, you know how much of a struggle we have had getting pregnant. I got off birth control over four years ago, and never even had a chance. I was not ovulating at all, and after fertility treatments, Dustin and I decided we were done with the disappointment of hoping to have a family, and went the adoption route.
Well 16 months after being blessed with our little man, we are now blessed with a pregnancy! The two of us are so excited and are so enjoying all this has to offer for our family. Dustin and I are in shock of all that has occurred, and I am so excited to be in this position.
I found out we were pregnant on November 16, and called Ally...she's my person, at 10:15 at night. We talked and I told her we were going to wait til Christmas to tell everyone. Well, I couldn't contain the excitement and we shared the incredible news with our families this past weekend. They all were so excited and so happy for our family.
So far I have felt pretty well. I am very tired, but I am feeling pretty good for the most part. Every now and then I have a wave of nausea, but no real complaints. I just want this pregnancy to be healthy and make it full term. I figure I can go through anything for 9 months, as long as our little person makes it into the world safely.
We are so grateful that our pregnancy didn't come until now. We wouldn't change a single event in our life for the world, and feel so blessed to be able to understand and adore the adoption world, and now have an amazing opportunity to experience having a biological child as well!
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Things Are Good!
Well it has been awhile since I have blogged. So, I just wanted to do a quick check in and let everyone know what is going on.
Dustin and I went on our cruise November 1-8 and it was paradise. We were able to enjoy a week with friends and some much needed one on one time together. I love vacations with Fuzz because when I come home, I love him even more. Money is always tight and I often wonder if vacationing is the best thing to do, but I am always so grateful we spend time together and are able to rebond. I love it and have decided vacationing is money well spent.
Carter is getting so big and growing so fast. He is saying many words and just a huge busy body. He is so fun and just keeps us on our toes all of the time.
It is hard to believe the holidays are around the corner. We are excited and have so much to be grateful for this year. We are very lucky to have so many dreams coming true and able to live such a wonderful life!
Hope all is well for everyone else, and I'll try to be a better blogger agian!
Dustin and I went on our cruise November 1-8 and it was paradise. We were able to enjoy a week with friends and some much needed one on one time together. I love vacations with Fuzz because when I come home, I love him even more. Money is always tight and I often wonder if vacationing is the best thing to do, but I am always so grateful we spend time together and are able to rebond. I love it and have decided vacationing is money well spent.
Carter is getting so big and growing so fast. He is saying many words and just a huge busy body. He is so fun and just keeps us on our toes all of the time.
It is hard to believe the holidays are around the corner. We are excited and have so much to be grateful for this year. We are very lucky to have so many dreams coming true and able to live such a wonderful life!
Hope all is well for everyone else, and I'll try to be a better blogger agian!
Monday, September 21, 2009
The Zone
Do you ever feel like everything is just going right? That is how I am feeling right now. I am so content and happy with all aspect of my life and I love when that's the way I portray my life at that moment.
The last few weeks, I feel like Dustin and I are connecting on every level. I feel like we are on the same page in life and we are working towards the same goals. I feel so in-tuned with my husband right now, and I LOVE IT!
I also feel like my family is there too. Watching Carter grow and become such a little boy, is the most exciting thing I've ever experienced. He is so fun, and so full of life, I just can't wait to see where the next little bit takes us.
My friends and I are all going on a cruise and I think we are going to have a blast. I think we have all been waiting so long, that it is going to be a week of non-stop laughing and fun.
My job, for the first time in a long time, is good. I am busy as hell, but that's not a bad thing. I enjoy my kiddoes, most the time, and am really wondering if junior high might be the right fit after all.
Now, after all this, I know it will fade and things will just go back to being life. But these are the moments in my life that keep me going when things get a little rocky. Because I know that I will get back in the zone eventually, and truly feel like I couldn't be any happier.
The last few weeks, I feel like Dustin and I are connecting on every level. I feel like we are on the same page in life and we are working towards the same goals. I feel so in-tuned with my husband right now, and I LOVE IT!
I also feel like my family is there too. Watching Carter grow and become such a little boy, is the most exciting thing I've ever experienced. He is so fun, and so full of life, I just can't wait to see where the next little bit takes us.
My friends and I are all going on a cruise and I think we are going to have a blast. I think we have all been waiting so long, that it is going to be a week of non-stop laughing and fun.
My job, for the first time in a long time, is good. I am busy as hell, but that's not a bad thing. I enjoy my kiddoes, most the time, and am really wondering if junior high might be the right fit after all.
Now, after all this, I know it will fade and things will just go back to being life. But these are the moments in my life that keep me going when things get a little rocky. Because I know that I will get back in the zone eventually, and truly feel like I couldn't be any happier.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
THANK YOU GOD!
So, this morning was just another typical morning, for about the first 5 minutes. I had gone to the Boys II Men concert last night, and didn't get home from the fair until about 1:00 am. By the time I got home and in bed it was 1:30, so when Carter woke up this morning I didn't even hear him. Dustin got up to be with him and let me sleep.
Well, Dustin was in the kitchen and I was in my bed, sleeping. When I woke to the worst noise EVER!
Dustin and I have a wall mounted tv in our bedroom that is above our bed. It is strapped on and mounted to the wall, so we thought we were fine. WRONG!
Carter some how pulled a ten year old, 30 lb tv, off the mount that then came crashing to the ground. My first psychological 5 minutes Carter didn't make a noise, and all I could think was my baby was smushed under this huge ass television. The fear of God went through my entire body.
In reality, it was probably 1-2 seconds before he started crying. I was out of bed and grabbing him so fast. Somehow, by the Grace of God, Carter was untouched. He had the living bi-jesus scared out of him and was cryign for 10 minutes, but he was fine.
As for Dustin and me, I am pretty sure in that 5 second time frame every worst possible scenario played through our heads of what happened to our son!
Today, I did a lot of activities with Carter. And every time I stopped to think about my morning, I thank'd God that I was at breakfast with friends, shopping with the sister, at Thanksgiving Point with family, over at Nathans with friends, and not dealing with a disaster that would have destroyed Dustin and me.
So, here's a HUGE shout out to my families guardian angels for protecting Carter today, and letting him not have a single injury, when it truly, very easily, could have been deadly!
Well, Dustin was in the kitchen and I was in my bed, sleeping. When I woke to the worst noise EVER!
Dustin and I have a wall mounted tv in our bedroom that is above our bed. It is strapped on and mounted to the wall, so we thought we were fine. WRONG!
Carter some how pulled a ten year old, 30 lb tv, off the mount that then came crashing to the ground. My first psychological 5 minutes Carter didn't make a noise, and all I could think was my baby was smushed under this huge ass television. The fear of God went through my entire body.
In reality, it was probably 1-2 seconds before he started crying. I was out of bed and grabbing him so fast. Somehow, by the Grace of God, Carter was untouched. He had the living bi-jesus scared out of him and was cryign for 10 minutes, but he was fine.
As for Dustin and me, I am pretty sure in that 5 second time frame every worst possible scenario played through our heads of what happened to our son!
Today, I did a lot of activities with Carter. And every time I stopped to think about my morning, I thank'd God that I was at breakfast with friends, shopping with the sister, at Thanksgiving Point with family, over at Nathans with friends, and not dealing with a disaster that would have destroyed Dustin and me.
So, here's a HUGE shout out to my families guardian angels for protecting Carter today, and letting him not have a single injury, when it truly, very easily, could have been deadly!
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Celebrating 4 Years
Dustin and I just celebrated our 4th anniversary on August 6. I just can't believe how it has flown. There are some days I feel we have been married for a lifetime and other days I wonder where the hell did it go!
For our anniversary I went to work for a large part of the day. Such a bummer but a girl has to do what a girl has to do. I then came home and got ready.
We both dressed up a little bit, and then went to sushi for dinner. It was pretty good, not the best but not the worst. We then attempted several different movies, but we had missed one round and didn't want to wait for the next. So we went and drove around neighborhoods looking at houses.
We then went through Artic Circle and got an ice-cream and called it a night. I had a very enjoyable evening.
My 4 Favorite Things About Dustin Are:
1. How much he loves being Carter's Dad!
2. The way he loves me no matter what.
3. How he is the calm in my storm.
4. The way we are able to work together as a team!
For our anniversary I went to work for a large part of the day. Such a bummer but a girl has to do what a girl has to do. I then came home and got ready.
We both dressed up a little bit, and then went to sushi for dinner. It was pretty good, not the best but not the worst. We then attempted several different movies, but we had missed one round and didn't want to wait for the next. So we went and drove around neighborhoods looking at houses.
We then went through Artic Circle and got an ice-cream and called it a night. I had a very enjoyable evening.
My 4 Favorite Things About Dustin Are:
1. How much he loves being Carter's Dad!
2. The way he loves me no matter what.
3. How he is the calm in my storm.
4. The way we are able to work together as a team!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Peanut's 1st Birthday Party
Carter turned one on July 26, and we had a great day! Dustin had to work that morning, but came home early to help get everything ready. The first thing we did was turn Carter's carseat around to face the world! So exciting! 
We headed to Nathan's where Dustin made a delightful breakfast for the setup crew. Nathan surprised us by having a huge slip and slide blow up there for the birthday party. I had been hoping to get it but couldn't afford it. So, when I walked outside and saw it, I felt like I had the best friend in the whole world!
We setup and filled one pool with water to play in and another pool with ice and water to hold all of the drinks. Dustin and I ran to Costco where we picked up the cake and steak for later.
The party began at 3 and by 3:30 we had a full house. The kids loved the slide, and even a few of the adults enjoyed it, especially my husband. They spent about an hour going up and down the slide, playing with water guns and balloons, playing in the pool, and on the tramp.
At about 4:15 everyone came in and we opened presents. Carter was very lucky on all he was given and we are ever so grateful to not have to worry about to many more fall clothes! He also received a stroller, a ball, a pick up toy, a walking toy, a cookie monster backpack, and a coloring book! All very exciting!
We then sang happy birthday to our little man, and gave him his first cake. However, he did not want to get dirty, and even with me pressing his fingers into the cake, it was fairly uneventful.
After the majority of the crowd left, my typical gang hung around for a barbecue and beer. We spent the evening talking and just being us! It was very enjoyable!
Well by 10:30 there were just a few of us left and we decided it was the adults time on the slip n' slide. So back up it went and down came the adults. At one point, I fell off from the top of the slide to the ground...still trying to figure out how it all happened!
All and all I think for a first birthday party it was amazing! We had a great time and loved all being together.
We headed to Nathan's where Dustin made a delightful breakfast for the setup crew. Nathan surprised us by having a huge slip and slide blow up there for the birthday party. I had been hoping to get it but couldn't afford it. So, when I walked outside and saw it, I felt like I had the best friend in the whole world!
We setup and filled one pool with water to play in and another pool with ice and water to hold all of the drinks. Dustin and I ran to Costco where we picked up the cake and steak for later.
The party began at 3 and by 3:30 we had a full house. The kids loved the slide, and even a few of the adults enjoyed it, especially my husband. They spent about an hour going up and down the slide, playing with water guns and balloons, playing in the pool, and on the tramp.
At about 4:15 everyone came in and we opened presents. Carter was very lucky on all he was given and we are ever so grateful to not have to worry about to many more fall clothes! He also received a stroller, a ball, a pick up toy, a walking toy, a cookie monster backpack, and a coloring book! All very exciting!
We then sang happy birthday to our little man, and gave him his first cake. However, he did not want to get dirty, and even with me pressing his fingers into the cake, it was fairly uneventful.
After the majority of the crowd left, my typical gang hung around for a barbecue and beer. We spent the evening talking and just being us! It was very enjoyable!
Well by 10:30 there were just a few of us left and we decided it was the adults time on the slip n' slide. So back up it went and down came the adults. At one point, I fell off from the top of the slide to the ground...still trying to figure out how it all happened!
All and all I think for a first birthday party it was amazing! We had a great time and loved all being together.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Birth Day
So, I didn't get to blog yesterday, due to a series of birthday events, but I wanted to write about what happened a year ago from yesterday a day late.
July 26, 2008: It started with a phone call from our agency and immediately we were talking money. Jane started explaining to us travel expenses, hospital expenses, money and time spent with Keita before due date etc. It was all very overwhelming, but I was able to manage until Jane tells me the following.
Keita is from Georgia, which is the most expensive hub in the country to have people flying from into Salt Lake. Go figure. So our travel expense right now was a little over $1500. Well, I then find out that that is only one way! So I am going to have to pay that much for them to get home as well. Okay...I will figure it out. Then, I get this...The birth father is going to be flying in on Wednesday and you will also have to pay for that expense!
Wait! WHAT!?!?!?! So, I ask, are you telling me I am looking at over $5000 in travel, and the reply is a simple yes. Okay, now I understood adoption to some extent but the things you just don't count on can drop me to my knees!
So, I hang up the phone and am immediately feeling very discouraged! I call my mom and tell her that we are going to have to reconsider. There just not might be a way for us to afford this situation. Once again there is immediate disappointment and frustration for both Dustin and me.
Well after several phone calls, to a million people, Dustin and I got so frustrated my mom said, "Just go pick up Keita. We will figure everything out." So, that is exactly what we were headed to do.
Dustin and I were talking about what we were going to do and pulled into Costco for gas. My cell phone rang, AGAIN, and it was my agency, AGAIN!!! I was very frustrated and answered probably a little abruptly. Jane says to me, "Hi, Lindsey. Are you heading to get Nekeita yet?" And me being the mellow person I am, firmly states back, "We are on our way, I was just trying to figure out finances!"
This is what I hear next, "Well, turn around. There has been a change of plans. Nekeita's water just broke and we will be heading towards the hospital shortly. She would like you there as soon as you can. Congratulations, you are becoming parents very quickly!"
As you can imagine our attitudes changed immediately and everything fell into place. We called our parents, ran to see my mom, cried A LOT!, and got some last minute things together. Then headed towards the hospital.
Once we got to the hospital Nekeita was very excited to see us. We spent the afternoon together and she just kept informing us that she wasn't ready, but apparently that didn't matter because Carter was. Internally I was thanking all my lucky stars, because now we would be able to keep this baby!
After a few quick hours 6:30 came around and Keita began began pushing. At 6:47 pm on July 26th, 2008 our 6 lbs 5 oz 19 in. long son, Dustin Carter was born. I was so fortunate to be in the delivery room and able to cut his umbilical cord. It was the most amazing thing that I will never forget!
Carter immediately left the room and then was shortly put to a Level 2 baby due to rapid breathing. Because we were adoptive parents we didn't get many rights. Thankfully a nurse let us in to see him, but we were not able to hold him or be in there long. That was the toughest.
That night Dustin, Keita, and myself shared a hospital room. We were not able to see Carter after, except through windows, but we were able to spend some amazing time with Keita.
It truly was one of the BEST days of our lives!
July 26, 2008: It started with a phone call from our agency and immediately we were talking money. Jane started explaining to us travel expenses, hospital expenses, money and time spent with Keita before due date etc. It was all very overwhelming, but I was able to manage until Jane tells me the following.
Keita is from Georgia, which is the most expensive hub in the country to have people flying from into Salt Lake. Go figure. So our travel expense right now was a little over $1500. Well, I then find out that that is only one way! So I am going to have to pay that much for them to get home as well. Okay...I will figure it out. Then, I get this...The birth father is going to be flying in on Wednesday and you will also have to pay for that expense!
Wait! WHAT!?!?!?! So, I ask, are you telling me I am looking at over $5000 in travel, and the reply is a simple yes. Okay, now I understood adoption to some extent but the things you just don't count on can drop me to my knees!
So, I hang up the phone and am immediately feeling very discouraged! I call my mom and tell her that we are going to have to reconsider. There just not might be a way for us to afford this situation. Once again there is immediate disappointment and frustration for both Dustin and me.
Well after several phone calls, to a million people, Dustin and I got so frustrated my mom said, "Just go pick up Keita. We will figure everything out." So, that is exactly what we were headed to do.
Dustin and I were talking about what we were going to do and pulled into Costco for gas. My cell phone rang, AGAIN, and it was my agency, AGAIN!!! I was very frustrated and answered probably a little abruptly. Jane says to me, "Hi, Lindsey. Are you heading to get Nekeita yet?" And me being the mellow person I am, firmly states back, "We are on our way, I was just trying to figure out finances!"
This is what I hear next, "Well, turn around. There has been a change of plans. Nekeita's water just broke and we will be heading towards the hospital shortly. She would like you there as soon as you can. Congratulations, you are becoming parents very quickly!"
As you can imagine our attitudes changed immediately and everything fell into place. We called our parents, ran to see my mom, cried A LOT!, and got some last minute things together. Then headed towards the hospital.
Once we got to the hospital Nekeita was very excited to see us. We spent the afternoon together and she just kept informing us that she wasn't ready, but apparently that didn't matter because Carter was. Internally I was thanking all my lucky stars, because now we would be able to keep this baby!
After a few quick hours 6:30 came around and Keita began began pushing. At 6:47 pm on July 26th, 2008 our 6 lbs 5 oz 19 in. long son, Dustin Carter was born. I was so fortunate to be in the delivery room and able to cut his umbilical cord. It was the most amazing thing that I will never forget!
Carter immediately left the room and then was shortly put to a Level 2 baby due to rapid breathing. Because we were adoptive parents we didn't get many rights. Thankfully a nurse let us in to see him, but we were not able to hold him or be in there long. That was the toughest.
That night Dustin, Keita, and myself shared a hospital room. We were not able to see Carter after, except through windows, but we were able to spend some amazing time with Keita.
It truly was one of the BEST days of our lives!
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Meeting Nekeita!
Dustin and I met Nekeita a year ago today. To think about the day we spent with her truly almost brings me to tears. I blogged about this woman several months ago, and was able to post some pictures of her as well. If you haven't read that blog, please feel free to. http://ourliladamsfamily.blogspot.com/2009_01_01_archive.html She is incredible.
This blog is going to be about our feelings that day. As Dustin and I got ready for our adventure we had so many mixed emotions. We had such great disappointment from the day before and didn't want to get our hopes up. Yet, here we were going to meet a woman and child who might pick us to be their adoptive family! Its HUGE!!!
On our way to Layton Dustin and I just kept trying to figure out questions, looks, and most importantly what in the hell we would have on the radio when she got in the car. Sounds crazy right? Probably but when you are on display and advertising yourselves to make a family, you really do think about everything! I think we decided on a mix of U2 and Sarah McClachlan.
Once we got to Layton we called to let Nekeita know we were here. Within minutes out walks a beautiful woman and little boy. She looks maybe 5 months pregnant and is beaming. I get out and introduce myself and she gives me a huge hug. Instantly all the little fears of what kind of music disappears.
It was so easy for Dustin, Keita, and I to talk. We were able to chat like we had been friends for an entire lifetime. It was really such an amazing experience. Everything just felt so right.
We took Keita to lunch at Joe's Crab Shack and then headed to the Fashion Place Mall to pick up some things she needed for her hospital stay. As we were in Motherhood, Keita asked Dustin and I what we wanted to name our baby. We said Dustin Carter. At that moment Nekeita took hold of her little belly and said "Well, hello there Dustin Carter." And that was it.
By the end of the day Keita had told us we would be the adoptive family for her little boy. We had an amazing time together and had agreed to see her the following day.
As Dustin and I left early that evening we were on cloud 9. We both kept saying we didn't want to get our hopes up again, but now it seemed even more real. We just spent the day with this amazing woman who was carrying our son.
We went to Dustin's sisters house after and started trying to figure out what we were going to do each day with Keita. Once you are placed it is the adoptive families opportunity to spend a lot of time with your birth family. Which is great, unless everything costs a ton and money is tight!
As we were planning what to do with Keita on Saturday my cell phone rang. Jane from our agency was calling to ask how our day with Keita went. We told her how amazing it was, and she said, "Congratulations! Keita felt the exact same. She has chosen the two of you to be her adoptive family. Tomorrow we will be signing our placement papers."
HOORAY!!! We called all sets of parents that night and asked if they would take a day to meet Keita and host an activity. We were trying to save money but still have the opportunity to spend time with Keita. They all happily agreed.
So, our first trip would be to Logan, the following day, to spend the day with Dustin's family!
This blog is going to be about our feelings that day. As Dustin and I got ready for our adventure we had so many mixed emotions. We had such great disappointment from the day before and didn't want to get our hopes up. Yet, here we were going to meet a woman and child who might pick us to be their adoptive family! Its HUGE!!!
On our way to Layton Dustin and I just kept trying to figure out questions, looks, and most importantly what in the hell we would have on the radio when she got in the car. Sounds crazy right? Probably but when you are on display and advertising yourselves to make a family, you really do think about everything! I think we decided on a mix of U2 and Sarah McClachlan.
Once we got to Layton we called to let Nekeita know we were here. Within minutes out walks a beautiful woman and little boy. She looks maybe 5 months pregnant and is beaming. I get out and introduce myself and she gives me a huge hug. Instantly all the little fears of what kind of music disappears.
It was so easy for Dustin, Keita, and I to talk. We were able to chat like we had been friends for an entire lifetime. It was really such an amazing experience. Everything just felt so right.
We took Keita to lunch at Joe's Crab Shack and then headed to the Fashion Place Mall to pick up some things she needed for her hospital stay. As we were in Motherhood, Keita asked Dustin and I what we wanted to name our baby. We said Dustin Carter. At that moment Nekeita took hold of her little belly and said "Well, hello there Dustin Carter." And that was it.
By the end of the day Keita had told us we would be the adoptive family for her little boy. We had an amazing time together and had agreed to see her the following day.
As Dustin and I left early that evening we were on cloud 9. We both kept saying we didn't want to get our hopes up again, but now it seemed even more real. We just spent the day with this amazing woman who was carrying our son.
We went to Dustin's sisters house after and started trying to figure out what we were going to do each day with Keita. Once you are placed it is the adoptive families opportunity to spend a lot of time with your birth family. Which is great, unless everything costs a ton and money is tight!
As we were planning what to do with Keita on Saturday my cell phone rang. Jane from our agency was calling to ask how our day with Keita went. We told her how amazing it was, and she said, "Congratulations! Keita felt the exact same. She has chosen the two of you to be her adoptive family. Tomorrow we will be signing our placement papers."
HOORAY!!! We called all sets of parents that night and asked if they would take a day to meet Keita and host an activity. We were trying to save money but still have the opportunity to spend time with Keita. They all happily agreed.
So, our first trip would be to Logan, the following day, to spend the day with Dustin's family!
Friday, July 24, 2009
Disappointment....And Yet!
A year ago today Dustin and I anxiously awaited a phone call telling us our birthmom and son were here. We paced back and forth and were going stir crazy waiting to go meet our little man. Around 1:00 that afternoon, the phone call from our agency finally came in. They told us our birthmother was a no show, and they would be showing our file later on that day to other birthmom's.
Dustin and I were incredibly disappointed. We were so bummed out it kind of sucked the life out of us for the remainder of the day. To go from such a high to such a low,is so hard, and made us fear how many times an event like this might occur. We had to call all of our families and let them know, there would not be a new member introduced to them today.
As the day progressed Dustin and I received another phone call from our agency. We were told there was a birthmom who was having a little boy and would like to meet us. They told us she was trying to decide between Dustin and I and another couple. They asked if we would be willing to meet her with the understanding that she may not pick us to be the adoptive family.
Dustin and I sat down and talked. We really wanted to meet our birthmom and have sometime with her, so we both agreed immediately that this was something we would like to do. We also braced ourselves for understanding of us not being picked.
We again told our immediate family, but just played it really low knowing it may fall through just as easily as the one we had experienced earlier that day. We talked to our agency and agreed to take our birthmom, Nekeita, out to lunch the following day.
That night we both went to bed saying we didn't have our hopes up for this little boy, but Lord knows we really did!
Dustin and I were incredibly disappointed. We were so bummed out it kind of sucked the life out of us for the remainder of the day. To go from such a high to such a low,is so hard, and made us fear how many times an event like this might occur. We had to call all of our families and let them know, there would not be a new member introduced to them today.
As the day progressed Dustin and I received another phone call from our agency. We were told there was a birthmom who was having a little boy and would like to meet us. They told us she was trying to decide between Dustin and I and another couple. They asked if we would be willing to meet her with the understanding that she may not pick us to be the adoptive family.
Dustin and I sat down and talked. We really wanted to meet our birthmom and have sometime with her, so we both agreed immediately that this was something we would like to do. We also braced ourselves for understanding of us not being picked.
We again told our immediate family, but just played it really low knowing it may fall through just as easily as the one we had experienced earlier that day. We talked to our agency and agreed to take our birthmom, Nekeita, out to lunch the following day.
That night we both went to bed saying we didn't have our hopes up for this little boy, but Lord knows we really did!
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Situation Number 1
Well, here is my second post to my week as we are nearing Peanut's birthday.
A year ago today, I was getting ready to go to lunch with some of my dearest friends from work. I was in the shower when my phone rang, so once I was out I saw I had missed a call from my agency. I had a voicemail, so I listened to it and it went something like this...
"Hi Dustin and Lindsey, this is Jane from Heart and Soul. Listen...we have a situation. We have a six week old African American boy who is flying in tomorrow with his birthmother. She has picked the two of you to be the adoptive family, and we are wondering if you are interested. Please call us as soon as you can."
OMG!!! I couldn't believe it had all happened so fast. Our file had been opened for two days and we were being placed. Dustin and I got so excited, we called Jane back immediately, and said, "Of course we are interested and 100% willing to take this little man."
They told us the birth mom would be flying in either late that night or first thing the next morning. We would be signing placement papers fairly soon after, and we would be bringing home our son tomorrow.
Well, in order to make the day go faster, I continued to lunch with my girlfriends. I told them all of the exciting news, ate lunch, and then anxiously got back home to Dustin. We went and bought one outfit, got the car seat in, and spent the rest of the night anxiously awaiting a phone call.
We didn't get a call that evening, so we went to bed. Tomorrow is the day we bring home our little man! Needless to say we had a tough time sleeping when we thought our little boy was traveling home! It was a VERY exciting day.
Tomorrow we learn about the next step in our adoption process!
A year ago today, I was getting ready to go to lunch with some of my dearest friends from work. I was in the shower when my phone rang, so once I was out I saw I had missed a call from my agency. I had a voicemail, so I listened to it and it went something like this...
"Hi Dustin and Lindsey, this is Jane from Heart and Soul. Listen...we have a situation. We have a six week old African American boy who is flying in tomorrow with his birthmother. She has picked the two of you to be the adoptive family, and we are wondering if you are interested. Please call us as soon as you can."
OMG!!! I couldn't believe it had all happened so fast. Our file had been opened for two days and we were being placed. Dustin and I got so excited, we called Jane back immediately, and said, "Of course we are interested and 100% willing to take this little man."
They told us the birth mom would be flying in either late that night or first thing the next morning. We would be signing placement papers fairly soon after, and we would be bringing home our son tomorrow.
Well, in order to make the day go faster, I continued to lunch with my girlfriends. I told them all of the exciting news, ate lunch, and then anxiously got back home to Dustin. We went and bought one outfit, got the car seat in, and spent the rest of the night anxiously awaiting a phone call.
We didn't get a call that evening, so we went to bed. Tomorrow is the day we bring home our little man! Needless to say we had a tough time sleeping when we thought our little boy was traveling home! It was a VERY exciting day.
Tomorrow we learn about the next step in our adoption process!
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
And Our Story Opened...
I have seen several friends do this and I have decided I really wanted to do it as well. Our Little Man turns one on Sunday, and I want to do a little log of the events leading up to the best day of our life.
A year ago today Dustin and I were in Logan, while Dustin was recovering from surgery. We had been anxiously awaiting to hear back from the adoption agency to find out if we we were accepted and when our file would open.
I remember calling first thing in the morning because we had been so incredibly anxious to find out. I called about 11, and Jane answered her phone. I asked her where our file stood, and she said, "Congratulations! We just had our meeting and your file is officially open. We will start showing your profiles to birthmother's immediately."
They then went on to tell us to keep our phones near all times from this point forward because when the situation came in, the baby might already be here. So, I hung up with Jane and Dustin and I celebrated with his family. We were so excited to finally be in a situation where we were going to be expanding our family.
A year ago today was a very promising day for our family! Stay tuned through out the week....
A year ago today Dustin and I were in Logan, while Dustin was recovering from surgery. We had been anxiously awaiting to hear back from the adoption agency to find out if we we were accepted and when our file would open.
I remember calling first thing in the morning because we had been so incredibly anxious to find out. I called about 11, and Jane answered her phone. I asked her where our file stood, and she said, "Congratulations! We just had our meeting and your file is officially open. We will start showing your profiles to birthmother's immediately."
They then went on to tell us to keep our phones near all times from this point forward because when the situation came in, the baby might already be here. So, I hung up with Jane and Dustin and I celebrated with his family. We were so excited to finally be in a situation where we were going to be expanding our family.
A year ago today was a very promising day for our family! Stay tuned through out the week....
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
The Passing Of A Legend
I am sitting here watching the memorial service of Michael Jackson, and it is crazy to me to believe he is gone. Rather you liked Michael Jackson as a person, people respect him for his entertainment ability!
As I watch the service, and see the people who speak about him so highly, I question if he truly did do the things he was accussed of. Now, I am not being naive, and have never really even thought twice about the accusations until the past week. But in hearing people speak about MJ and seeing in interviews how child like he was off stage, I wonder if with the abuse and the ability of not having a normal childhood to any extent, if he truly just never grew up.
I think the memorial service has been beautiful and the incredible tributes and words given about him, were of the up-most respect. To hear the compassion he had for people of all kinds, brings chills to my mind.
I grew up on Michael Jackson music, as I am sure most of us did. I will never forget how many times hearing just a song of his has brought back memories of my life and made me smile. It is crazy for me to realize that the biggest music legend of my time has passed. He will not be forgotten any time soon and his music will continue to be played in my car, on my ipod, and in my home.
God Bless Michael Jackson and what he gave to our world! If nothing else, he paved the road for music, entertainment, and a path for people who are African American to live the AMERICAN DREAM! And for that, rest in peace, M.J.!
As I watch the service, and see the people who speak about him so highly, I question if he truly did do the things he was accussed of. Now, I am not being naive, and have never really even thought twice about the accusations until the past week. But in hearing people speak about MJ and seeing in interviews how child like he was off stage, I wonder if with the abuse and the ability of not having a normal childhood to any extent, if he truly just never grew up.
I think the memorial service has been beautiful and the incredible tributes and words given about him, were of the up-most respect. To hear the compassion he had for people of all kinds, brings chills to my mind.
I grew up on Michael Jackson music, as I am sure most of us did. I will never forget how many times hearing just a song of his has brought back memories of my life and made me smile. It is crazy for me to realize that the biggest music legend of my time has passed. He will not be forgotten any time soon and his music will continue to be played in my car, on my ipod, and in my home.
God Bless Michael Jackson and what he gave to our world! If nothing else, he paved the road for music, entertainment, and a path for people who are African American to live the AMERICAN DREAM! And for that, rest in peace, M.J.!
Friday, June 26, 2009
Starting The Process Again?....Maybe!
Dustin and I have been saying since we were placed with Carter, we would take another child right away if we could. However, due to the expense, it makes it very difficult to imagine adopting again, when we still owe money on Carter's adoption.
Well, we really want a little girl, preferably African American. So, I was doing some research on the internet, and decided to fill out a form to see what it would be like to adopt through fostercare. Now, instantly that shoots fear into me. However, I found out they have a program that we can say we are only interested in children who are already looking to be adopted, that way they won't be taken out of our home. So, we marked we were looking for a child 0-2, preferably female, but would take either, and open to a small sibling group, we will see what they say when they call with detailed information.
As I was sitting there filling out this form, I was talking to a girlfriend who is adopting a little girl from India, and is hoping to have her home by Christmas. She gave me a blog of a friend, and there is going to be a conference in July. I am truly thinking about attending, not only for information, but I think it is important to interact with other adoptive families.
Adoption is such a different feeling. The thought of putting our family on display again in hopes of expanding our family is a whirl wind of emotions. I get so excited about adding on to our family, and yet it really makes me nervous too, when we know so little about the backgrounds of the birth families and what kind of emotional roller coaster it can be.
Anyway, here's to testing out the waters and seeing what is in store for us. Who knows what will come from it all, but hopefully the end result will be a new member(s) of our family. It could happen tomorrow or in 3 years, that is the beauty of adoption.
Well, we really want a little girl, preferably African American. So, I was doing some research on the internet, and decided to fill out a form to see what it would be like to adopt through fostercare. Now, instantly that shoots fear into me. However, I found out they have a program that we can say we are only interested in children who are already looking to be adopted, that way they won't be taken out of our home. So, we marked we were looking for a child 0-2, preferably female, but would take either, and open to a small sibling group, we will see what they say when they call with detailed information.
As I was sitting there filling out this form, I was talking to a girlfriend who is adopting a little girl from India, and is hoping to have her home by Christmas. She gave me a blog of a friend, and there is going to be a conference in July. I am truly thinking about attending, not only for information, but I think it is important to interact with other adoptive families.
Adoption is such a different feeling. The thought of putting our family on display again in hopes of expanding our family is a whirl wind of emotions. I get so excited about adding on to our family, and yet it really makes me nervous too, when we know so little about the backgrounds of the birth families and what kind of emotional roller coaster it can be.
Anyway, here's to testing out the waters and seeing what is in store for us. Who knows what will come from it all, but hopefully the end result will be a new member(s) of our family. It could happen tomorrow or in 3 years, that is the beauty of adoption.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Hurricane Heather
We were invited up to Ponderosa camp ground this past weekend for a dear friends 35th surprise birthday party. We were both so excited to go spend sometime out of the city and with some of our dearest friends. 
I had asked my mom and Garry if we could use their pop-up trailor just in case there was some rain, we wouldn't have Carter on the ground and give us a little more protection from the rain and wind if we needed. However, I don't think we really thought it would be bad. We were just looking forward to good stories, good drinks, and good times.
We got there Friday, set up camp and was doing our best to keep the bears away. I don't know why but it really surprised me to read a sign that said be aware of bears. It freaked me out a little bit, and I was even more greatful for Garry and mom bringing me their trailor. Once we were there we started with a vodka cran and just began to enjoy our time.
Friday night there were a few sprinkles and we were in sweatshirts but it was very relaxing and a good time. However, Saturday morning was a whole new ball game.
We woke up Saturday morning and it was sprinkling. We made some breakfast at the camp fire, and just kind of dealt with sprinkling off and on. At about 1:00 there was a down pour, but it past about 30 minutes later. So, back out in the drizzles we played some cards, drank coffee, and continued to pray for sunshine.
Unfortunately, at about 6:30 the rain really began to fall and we were freezing. By 7:00 pm there was sheets of rain falling, and tarps flying. We made a run for the trailor with Carter and our 2 God-daughters, got them out of wet clothes and we all climbed into bed.
It continued to rain for another hour or more just a down pour. Finally it let up, but Dustin and I opted on not going back into the freezing, wet, muddy cold, and just called it a night. It really was such a bummer.
That night was freezing, and it continued to rain all night. By 6:00Sunday morning we were both ready to call it. I called Garry at 7:45, the earliest we dared, and asked them to come and get us. Luckily, they said they were on there way. Approximately two and a half hours later, our camp was cleaned up, trailor loaded, and we were in our warm car, with warm heat, headed back home.
The people we went with were great and we are really bummed we were rained out of our get away. We opted to name the weekend Hurricane Heather, since it was so windy and rainy over Heather's birthday party.
Highlights of the Trip:
-Jaden's stories, (he is 3 and told us he was an adult who drank coffee and grape juice)
-Heather and Nick climbing over an 80 foot tree to the very top...I think they're crazy
-Friday night's camp fire and stories
-Having Carter experience his first camping trip
-Good times with good friends!
I had asked my mom and Garry if we could use their pop-up trailor just in case there was some rain, we wouldn't have Carter on the ground and give us a little more protection from the rain and wind if we needed. However, I don't think we really thought it would be bad. We were just looking forward to good stories, good drinks, and good times.
We got there Friday, set up camp and was doing our best to keep the bears away. I don't know why but it really surprised me to read a sign that said be aware of bears. It freaked me out a little bit, and I was even more greatful for Garry and mom bringing me their trailor. Once we were there we started with a vodka cran and just began to enjoy our time.
Friday night there were a few sprinkles and we were in sweatshirts but it was very relaxing and a good time. However, Saturday morning was a whole new ball game.
We woke up Saturday morning and it was sprinkling. We made some breakfast at the camp fire, and just kind of dealt with sprinkling off and on. At about 1:00 there was a down pour, but it past about 30 minutes later. So, back out in the drizzles we played some cards, drank coffee, and continued to pray for sunshine.
Unfortunately, at about 6:30 the rain really began to fall and we were freezing. By 7:00 pm there was sheets of rain falling, and tarps flying. We made a run for the trailor with Carter and our 2 God-daughters, got them out of wet clothes and we all climbed into bed.
It continued to rain for another hour or more just a down pour. Finally it let up, but Dustin and I opted on not going back into the freezing, wet, muddy cold, and just called it a night. It really was such a bummer.
That night was freezing, and it continued to rain all night. By 6:00Sunday morning we were both ready to call it. I called Garry at 7:45, the earliest we dared, and asked them to come and get us. Luckily, they said they were on there way. Approximately two and a half hours later, our camp was cleaned up, trailor loaded, and we were in our warm car, with warm heat, headed back home.
The people we went with were great and we are really bummed we were rained out of our get away. We opted to name the weekend Hurricane Heather, since it was so windy and rainy over Heather's birthday party.
Highlights of the Trip:
-Jaden's stories, (he is 3 and told us he was an adult who drank coffee and grape juice)
-Heather and Nick climbing over an 80 foot tree to the very top...I think they're crazy
-Friday night's camp fire and stories
-Having Carter experience his first camping trip
-Good times with good friends!
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
J and Chris Wedding...Take 2
Jocelyn and Chris were married back in March, however, due to it being so quickly put together they decided to keep it little. So, Chris went off to training and J moved home to plan their big wedding. 
So, last Wednesday, June 10th Joc and Chris had their big wedding. It was so much fun and turned out beautiful. They got married at Millenial Falls, which I would highly suggest to anyone who is looking for a place to get hitched or have some kind of reception. They were able to have Cold-Stone ice cream, dancing, and even were able to get married outside. The rain broke probably 15 minutes before it was time to take the trail down the aisle.
I have included some pictures, but may add more as they come in.
So, last Wednesday, June 10th Joc and Chris had their big wedding. It was so much fun and turned out beautiful. They got married at Millenial Falls, which I would highly suggest to anyone who is looking for a place to get hitched or have some kind of reception. They were able to have Cold-Stone ice cream, dancing, and even were able to get married outside. The rain broke probably 15 minutes before it was time to take the trail down the aisle.
I have included some pictures, but may add more as they come in.
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